Opinions are like...

There are a lot of opinions out there. It seems the internet and social media has brought many of those opinions out in the open. But honestly, not one opinion is more important than your own. That’s right. Your opinion is the most valuable, because it’s your opinion that you act upon.

Not celebrity, not wealth, not notoriety makes an opinion more valid or true. It is only valid and true, if it is your opinion. Even if you agree with what another has to say, it’s more likely than not, that you probably don’t agree with everything that person says.

We are unique, with unique thoughts. That’s what makes us all awesome. Now more than any other time in history, we have the platform to voice our own opinion. Speak up, let your voice be heard!  KJ @ KJ-isms



I found the weapon that causes us the most pain!  And it wasn’t what I thought it would be.  I guess it only makes sense that the one thing that gives us the most joy, would be the one thing that could give us the most pain.  What took me so long to figure it out?


That’s right, love is our most powerful weapon.  Nothing else will hurt someone so much, as when love is being withheld from them. 

I try, as much as possible, to give unconditional love.  That merely means that I require nothing of the people that I love.  I don’t have expectations of receiving anything in return when I give my love.  Does that mean I don’t desire something in return? Of course not.  We are all here to get and give love.  It’s natural that when you give your love to someone, you hope that it will be returned to you.  That is not always the case, but continue to love them anyway.


There are times when love is used (perhaps unintentionally, perhaps intentionally) as a weapon.  It takes more love, compassion and caring to love someone who has hurt you, than it does to love someone who has not.  Don’t let the pain you may be feeling, over their lack of showing love, cause you to withdraw your love, too.

Different people are in our lives to give us the opportunity to be generous, to be kind, to be understanding, to be nurturing, to be courageous, to be forgiving, to be sympathetic and to be loved. Some people are in our lives to give us the opportunity to learn, so that we may teach others.


Every person is a sum of all their parts. Not just the parts with which you agree or accept. If you want people to love and accept you for all that you are, you must love and accept others for all that they are, too.


Love isn’t easy, Life isn’t easy. Both Love and Life can be very rewarding when we give our love without expectations of receiving in return. You can decide how to live your life, who to spend your life with and you are the only person who can do that. Love yourself unconditionally and you will be able to love others in the same way.


 KJ @ KJ-isms

Old songs, new lessons

   Listening to old songs.  Songs that shaped my teen years, but did I ever really hear what those song said?  Do lessons only get learned when it appears it's too late?

I close my eyes, only for a moment, and the moment's gone

  That is how moments go.  They are here and gone in a blink of an eye. What did you do in that moment?

All my dreams pass before my eyes, a curiosity

  Dreams.  Those illusive images that drift through our sleeping minds…

Dust in the wind

All they are is dust in the wind

Same old song, just a drop of water in an endless sea

  Songs, words and thoughts that have all been sung before, all have been said before and all have been thought before…  and will forever more…

All we do crumbles to the ground though we refuse to see

Dust in the wind

All we are is dust in the wind

   History.  Does it really teach us?  Do we really listen and do we really learn?  

Oh, ho, ho

Now, don't hang on, nothing lasts forever but the earth and sky

It slips away

And all your money won't another minute buy

  You can gather all the riches of this world, but those riches will be left behind when you go. And as the song goes, all those riches won’t buy you one more minute here.

Everything is dust in the wind

The wind

   All we leave behind, crumbles to the ground, except one thing.   Love.   Love stays.  If you have to leave anything behind, leave love everywhere you go. 


Songwriters: Kerry Livgren / Kerry A Livgren

Dust in the Wind lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

Christmas and the Giving Time of Year

A reminder about what is really important this time of year (and any time of year)! Thank you Jeffrey, for your words of wisdom. 

This time of the year can be particularly hard on some people, it can be financially, emotionally, and physically draining.

For anyone that goes through this, I wish for you peace of mind.

May your holidays be filled with those you love and your heart content with what you have, as well as what you are able to give.

Please remember that the best gifts you can ever give cost 0 $.

Give your kindness, love, loyalty, friendship, respect...

and I promise that the gift you get in return will be more satisfying than any material object.

Merry Christmas, Jeffrey


 KJ @ KJ-isms

Good guy, Bad guy

While reading Zero Dean's book, “Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled”, I had an epiphany! Sometimes we are the good guy and sometimes we are the bad guy.
And it’s ok.
There are a lot of lessons in life that come out of bad experiences or situations. I’ve even heard it said that we will learn the most from our bad experiences. So, was the person who took credit for someone else’s work a “bad” guy? Or was he an angel doing the job of pushing that person to make a change? Only the person experiencing that can truly answer.
I will go out on a limb and say he was a good guy. There are times in life when we get nudges, instincts or gut feelings (if you will) and we ignore them. I do believe that we all have a “guardian angel” or higher power that will try to help us find and stay on our chosen life path. When we ignore those nudges and gut feelings, we need more than a nudge. We need a shove! That guy, taking credit for another’s work, may have appeared (at the time) to be someone bad, but he also might have been the shove one needed.
What’s happening in one’s life, whether perceived as “good” or “bad”, is all in how you look at it. And sometimes we can only see clearly when we are looking in the rear view mirror.  KJ @ KJ-isms
For information on the book mentioned, click the link below!

Who really holds the power?

There are times that I get frustrated with the inability to give my concerns or complaints directly to the source of the problem. Yup, that’s a big thing these days.   Understand that I am old, so my perspective comes from my “good old days”, which I’m sure some of you reading here, may or may not understand (if you didn’t live it).

Back in the day, when I was younger, a business would have a customer service phone line.  You could call, usually speak to a local person right at the store where you shopped.   They would listen and would generally pass along any information they received to the person who could best handle the problem.  In fact, many times they would take your number and someone would call, either to get more information about the issue or to tell you how they resolved it.  Wow, what a concept!  Caring about the experience your customers had with your business.  I totally get that you cannot please everyone all the time, but those businesses tried, they listened, they did what they could… OMG, they CARED about their customers!

Not today!  Online business and the ability of the source to distance themselves from the consumer, has really screwed us all.   There is no one to call, no one to email, no one to say how you feel about a product or service.   No one to listen to what you want or need.  Oh, if you can find an email or a link to send “feedback”, you will most likely get a canned response that says, “while we appreciate your feedback, we don’t respond to these emails”.   Oh wow, did they really even read it?  Or is that link placed there to make you (the consumer) feel better.   And how many of you have received the canned response with a lot of “gee we are sorry you had this experience” and other platitudes, that had NOTHING to do with what you wrote about in the first place?  Yeah, me too!

Back in the day, we were taught that if you have a problem with someone or something, take that problem to the source first.  If after doing that, you still were not satisfied you could tell your friends or anyone who might listen.  Now, the source is buried so deep into the void you can no longer reach the source.  But, it doesn’t really matter, because they don’t really care anyway.  They will put out a product or service and you can pretty much “take it or leave it”.  Of course, they are hoping enough people will take it (flaws and all).  Sadly, too many people do and that’s probably why they can get away with their attitudes toward the consumer. Hey, no worries they will just shoot out an upgrade or update every couple of weeks once they find and fix what they believe are the problems.

Beta testers are a wonderful thing.   They test a product before it is sent out for public consumption.  Well, the beta testers aren’t perfect, but they do catch some of the problems before the rest of the world has to deal with it.  What would be nice to see is “user testers”.   A group of testers who, after the product is released, actually use the product.  Someone to give the source feedback from actual users. How many of you use a computer program, social network site or really anything and say to yourself “this would work better if…”?  I’m sure there are a lot of you.  Wouldn’t it be nice if the source of anything listened to the users of anything and tried their best to give consumers the product or service they really wanted? Some companies, when they are first starting out, do just that.  They listen to what their potential customers want.  But, a strange thing happens when they get ‘big’ and powerful.  They stop listening. 

It’s no longer about giving the consumers a product they need or want, it’s about how can we keep (control over) our consumers and how can we stop any competitor.  Because now the source is powerful and the only thing they can think about is how to keep that power in their hands!  I guess they forgot how they got there in the first place.  And this is, partly, why they will eventually crash and burn.   As consumers get fed up with not being “heard”, when they realize that the product/service source no longer cares about meeting any of their needs, they find something else.   This will leave the big powerful source scratching their heads and asking, “what happened?”.   Wait for it, it will come!

This same thing can be said about government or anything that provides a service or product that you use.  You shouldn’t let businesses, government, schools or anyone tell you what you are going to accept as a service/product.  Demand excellence and demand that they provide it the way you want it.  If we can stop accepting inferior products/services, perhaps the source will stop offering inferior products and services.

Seriously, it’s in the hands of the consumer!  The power of change has always been in your (the consumers) hands.  Nothing happens to us that we don’t allow to happen.  I guess the questions is, why do we continue to allow it?

Things that make you go hmmmm.    KJ @ KJ-isms

Education leads to understanding. Understanding leads to tolerance. Tolerance leads to acceptance.  KJ 


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